Internet aspects with boyfriend in discussion about couple’s home expenses: ‘conspiracy’

Online commentators were quick to call an unemployed person reddit A user who complained about having to use their savings account to contribute to their monthly household expenses.

Posting on Reddit’s popular r/AmITheA**hole forum, Redditor u/throwawayaccount3172 (otherwise referred to as the original poster or OP) said they had recently quit their job and expressed a reluctance to pay bills without a steady income, although they insisted Her boyfriend did it.

entitled “[Am I the a**hole] To tell my friend that he’s never had to suffer a single day in his life, and doesn’t want to back out of our agreement? ” Mail It received over 4,200 upvotes and 1,900 comments in the first 11 hours.

“I recently moved into my friend ‘Sam’’s apartment,” the OP began. “He belongs to an upper-class family and is very well off.”

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Continuing to explain that they quit their job “due to some issues in the workplace,” the OP said they are not currently looking for work, nor are they planning to do so until the end of the year.

The Redditor also said that despite saving enough money not to work for a while, they They don’t want to allocate their savings towards household expenses, which displeased their friend.

“Sam asked me a few days ago to start contributing 50-50 percent to bills and other household items,” OB wrote. “It is currently distributed based on our income.”

“I told him no, because I actually have no income at the moment, but he said this is my problem and I need to take it out of my savings,” the OP continued. “I said we agreed in advance to divide everything based on income, but he said that I don’t have a job is something he has to deal with.”

“I said I worked hard for my savings and he can’t dictate what I do with it, and I need some left over for my own stuff,” the OP added. Sam is very angry and said I’m ‘selfish’ and ‘deal with him’, but I said that’s not the case at all. [and] He won’t understand because he’s never had to struggle a single day in his life.”

For most couples, moving in together is an exciting and a step towards building a joint life.

But as with many other co-living arrangements, Controversies over money It can quickly curb that enthusiasm.

To avoid conflict around rent, utility bills or any other common expenses, Real Estate Website Find an apartment It recommends that spouses implement strict cost-sharing systems that specify the monthly responsibilities of each partner.

Whether it’s a traditional 50-50 split, split rent evenly with staggered utilities or a percentage split based on income, the most important factor when it comes to couples living together is accountability.

In order for couples to achieve successful cohabitation, each partner must stick to the end of the bargain—Even when it doesn’t seem necessary.

Couple arguing over expenses
Members of Reddit’s r/AmITheA** hole forum were quick to call out a Redditor for not gaining weight when it comes to common household expenses. Above, a representation of a couple in disagreement over expenses.
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With multiple allusions to their friend’s wealth and high paying jobs, the OP made it clear that he could keep the couple afloat for some time, justifying her refusal to use her savings to cover half of their expenses.

Redditors who responded to the viral post scoffed at the idea.

During the comments section of the post, Redditors criticized the OP for insinuating that because they quit their job, they were excused from contributing financially, and parroted their friend’s assessment of the situation.

“[You’re the a**hole]Redditor u/Temporary_Badger wrote at the top of the post’s comment, which has garnered more than 9,000 upvotes. You agreed to contribute based on income, then quit your job because you thought that meant you would have to contribute zero. “

“You’re totally crazy and taking advantage of it and he’s right to tell you he won’t tolerate it,” they added. “He has realized that you do not intend to contribute proportionately so much as to use his fortune as an excuse to do nothing.”

Redditor u/FireWaterGold, whose comment has received over 5,000 votes, echoed that sentiment.

“Splitting the rent based on relative income is what you agreed to…but that was before you decided to leave your job,” they wrote. “If it’s going to make things difficult for you financially… you shouldn’t quit before you get another job.”

“You have to pay exactly what you paid before you leave,” they added. “His job status has nothing to do with him. The amount of money he has is irrelevant…You are taking advantage of him.”

“It looks like you’re trying to find a loophole in your agreement,” Redditor u/tlf55 shared, garnering over 1,000 upvotes. “You should have had some discussion before you quit about how this would affect the family…Instead, you jump right into ‘He should pay for it all because he makes all the income.'”

NEWSWEEK I reached out to u/throwawayaccount3172 for comment.